patience: a precious and rare virtue

so, i’m starting this new thing. every month, i’m going to try and work on something new.
i’ve been trying to work on kindness lately, so i decided to just start fresh, since it’s a new month and all.

patience.

i really do struggle with this, quite a bit. how much i struggle depends on what it’s about and what it is that i’m doing/waiting for. 
life can be hard, and at times, overwhelming. it doesn’t always seem fair, but life isn’t really supposed to be fair or easy. we are constantly growing and trying to be better, so of course it isn’t going to be a breeze.

How much of life do we miss by waiting to see the rainbow before thanking God that there is rain?” –Dieter F. Uchtdorf

there is so much going on around us, all the time. 
in today’s world, it shouldn’t be too hard to be patient because there is always something to distract us or something else we can be focusing on. but at the same time, we live in a world where everything is at our fingertips. it is so easy to have access to almost anything, instantly: internet, friends (Facebook, instagram, twitter, texting), books, tv, music, amazon..pretty much anything and everything we want is just a click away. everything is becoming electronic. there are ebooks, which i hate, and netflix, and there’s pretty much an app for anything you can think of. and because of all this “convenience,” we get impatient by the smallest of things.
>>waiting in line at the store
>>waiting at red lights
>>not being connected to wifi
>>waiting for food at a restaurant
>>having to wait a few minutes for something to load, either on your phone, computer, or tablet
>>basically anything that we can’t get instantly

it is pretty sad that we have this “i need it, and i need it now” mentality.
it is not realistic, not in the slightest. almost anything worth having and worth working for, takes time and effort.

-a relationship. if you want it to work out, it will not always be easy. you have to work for it, you have to truly want it. you have to be willing to make some changes and willing to work with each other. there must be patience on both sides; otherwise, it will never work. if you want someone to be patient with you, you must return that same patience. and, of course, if you want something to last forever, you must treat it differently.
-being successful in work, or any business related pursuit. you almost always have to work your way up. you don’t just wake up CEO of the company you’re working for. or in my case, you don’t wake up a best selling author, or a photographer that everyone knows. it takes time. you need to have patience with yourself. spend time making yourself better. make improvements. don’t expect it to all work out overnight. hard work pays off.
-getting back in shape. you will not be skinny or have a beach body after one week. you need to keep it up! fight for it. work for what you want. don’t get too frustrated. you won’t see results, and neither will anyone else, for at the very least, 4 weeks.

it’s okay if you don’t see progress right away. keep pushing. keep working towards your goals. one day, it will all pay off. life has a funny way of working out. 


if we could all have the “His will, not mine” mentality, the world would be so much better off. i do try my very best to remember that. i may have to force that into my head, but i always remind myself when i’m praying. 
sometimes the Lord has us wait for things, not to punish us, but so we can realize that it wasn’t right for us, or so we can be even more grateful and appreciative of it, when we do get it.


lately, there has just been so much going wrong. family troubles, no luck trying to find a job, no luck with the apartment search, having to go to the police with fraud. it just seems like as soon as everything is going well, everything starts to tumble down around me. and that is when our patience is tested the most. 
not our patience with worldly things but our patience with God, and mostly, His timing.
i often wonder why things happen the way they do, and in the order they do. but once i have time to reflect and really think deeply about what’s happened, i realize that i wouldn’t have it any other way. the Lord’s timing really is perfect. His way is so much better than my way. even though it seems like He is dragging me, kicking and screaming at times, when i look back, i see how much i’ve grown and how much stronger i have gotten. and then, i am entirely grateful. 
i love my trials, as odd as that may seem. they have shaped me into
the person i am today. they have made me independent and strong. they make me have a sense of reality and peace. 
and even though each trial gets just a little harder, i am able to have a sense of peace and calmness; because, i know that Heavenly Father has a wonderful plan for me. when i do my best to follow Him, He never leads me astray. He is always right beside me. He guides me down the straight and narrow, as long as i am doing my part.
and i know that He does this with each and every one of us. we are His children, and He wants us to come home to Him again, one day. He loves us all so dearly. it is impossible to comprehend. 

someone once told me that the reason God gives us trials is not to punish us, but because we have been doing so well, and following Him so greatly, that He has to give us trials so we can grow even more and just get stronger and gain a deeper testimony. 
which, once i really thought about it, is entirely true. if we didn’t have trials, or rough patches, we would just be cruisin’ through life. and that isn’t what this life is about. it is about growing and learning and trying to be as Christlike as we possibly can. and if we weren’t tested, that would be completely impossible.

– God won’t take away our burdens, but He will give us the strength to carry them ourselves, without being weighed down. 

Romans 5:3  …but we glory in tribulations also: knowing that tribulation worketh patience;
4 And patience, experience; and experience, hope.

i know i already said this, but i just want to emphasize.
our trials make us stronger! they make us who we are! without them, we would never be able to grow and progress. 
life can suck sometimes, but, duhh, we think that because we let ourselves. 
part of patience is being positive. we can be patient, but if we are complaining the whole way, and dragging our heels, that kind of defeats the whole purpose.
instead, try to be happy, enjoy the wait { as much as possible } and do other things that make you happy while you’re waiting. 
and patience is far more than waiting..we must actively wait and actively endure. 

in reality, impatience is selfishness. 
patience is letting go of yourself, and letting God take the wheel. and that can be hard, and really scary sometimes because we don’t always know where He is taking us.
but it really can’t be anywhere bad. He is our loving Heavenly Father and His plan for each of us is wonderful. and it may not be our plan, but it is always 100000x better. 
patience and trust go hand in hand a lot of the time.

think of how patient the Lord is with us, we can try a little harder to be patience, both with Him, and His children.

the effort is what really counts, just make the effort. do it.


xoxo,

jacquelyn 

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