self worth

often times, we don’t give ourselves enough credit. 
we are beautifully, wonderfully, and fearfully made. { Psalm 139: 14 }
God doesn’t make mistakes. no, we aren’t perfect, but we are perfectly imperfect. 
Heavenly Father does not expect us to be perfect, but he does expect us to try our hardest. i know that i haven’t always given myself enough credit, i haven’t always thought i was worthy or good enough. 
we are our worst critics, which is good and bad. it’s good to be aware of the things we need to work on, but it is not okay to tear ourselves down for every little thing. 
i do it so much, and i really need to stop. 

and it’s the same in our relationships. if we don’t treat ourselves with respect and love, how can we expect other people to? we really can’t get mad at people for not giving us the things we don’t give ourselves. 
this is something that i have had the hardest time with. 
way too often, i feel like i’m the one who cares more. i’m the one who loves more. and it is great to care for and love everyone. but when we put ourselves through that, being the one that cares more, we are only going to get hurt. 
it isn’t okay to be someone’s convenience. it’s also okay to not be someones first priority. 

i have been able to truly focus on bettering myself and i feel that i have grown so much in the past few months. i have my priorities in the right places. i am able to love myself and see my own worth. i am a catch, i am a good friend, i am a beautiful person. i know that my Heavenly Father loves me dearly. i know what i deserve, and i am not going to settle.

there comes a point in our lives when we need to get rid of the people who bring us down, no matter how hard it is. we need to get rid of the people who don’t give us enough of the respect, time, love, and anything else that we need and deserve.
it’s like that christina perri song, we are only human and there’s only so much we can take. we are fragile, we can only bend so far backwards until we break. we can’t be someone’s punching bag, and we can’t just be there when they need us. it needs to be a two way street. 
relationships { friends, boyfriends/girlfriends, family } take work, from both sides. if one person is trying harder, it will never work, and that person will be absolutely miserable. they will constantly be thinking and asking themselves what they’re doing wrong! why doesn’t that person, whoever it may be, care about them as much? when in reality, it is not their fault at all. it just isn’t the right relationship for either person. one isn’t ready, and one is too willing. relationships are hard, but they don’t have to be. we make them far more complicated then they need to be.

*i don’t want anyone to get the wrong impression from all this though. i try my very best to love everyone, but there is a difference between loving and caring for them as people, and just letting them walk all over you. it is absolutely okay to not be friends with people you once were, it is not okay for you to hate and resent them. we must forgive as Christ forgave, and love as Christ loves.
Heavenly Father expects quite a bit from us, and i don’t know about you, but i don’t want to let Him down any more than i already have!

Colossians 3:12   Put on therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, long-suffering;
13  Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.
14  And above all these things put on charity, which is the bond of perfectness.
15  And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to the which also ye are called in one body: and be ye thankful.

i didn’t know my worth until recently, and to be honest, i still have a hard time seeing it at times. but that’s okay, it’s a work in progress. if other people can’t see it, then that is their loss, not mine. it is actually my gain. i don’t need people who don’t see my potential. i need people who are going to uplift and help me stay on the path i am on. i need people who will push me, but love me when i fail. i need tough love, but not too tough. and i know that people aren’t perfect, but i also know what kind of people i do and don’t need in my life.
it can be really hard to try and let those people go. you grow fond of them, you build bonds and learn to love them. the more you get to know someone, the more you start to care. it can be scary and hard to let people go, but i can promise you that if you can be strong and let go of those people who aren’t giving you the respect and love you need, you will be so much happier. sometimes we need to be selfish. it isn’t a sin and it isn’t bad. it is important to let go and get rid of anything that weighs you down and isn’t helping you.

find friends who have the same goals. people who are on the right path. people who will uplift and help you. find those people who will truly have good intentions.
keep your eyes open, you never know who will pop into your life. 

Proverbs 13: 20  He that walketh with wise men
shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed. 


xoxo,

jacquelyn

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